Tuesday, April 28, 2009

National Infertility Awareness Week April 25 - May 2, 2009

I found out on a friends blog that this is National Infertility Awareness Week. As this is something I struggle with, I was able to relate to these myths and facts and thought maybe others might like to learn a little about it as well.

Infertility 101: Get the facts

Myth: Infertility is a woman's problem.

Fact: This is untrue. It surprises most people to learn that infertility is a female problem in 35% of the cases, a male problem in 35% of the cases, a combined problem of the couple in 20% of cases, and unexplained in 10% of cases. It is essential that both the man and the woman be evaluated during an infertility work-up.

Myth: Everyone seems to get pregnant at the drop of a hat.

Fact: More than five million people of childbearing age in the United States experience infertility. When you seek support, you will find that you are not alone. Join RESOLVE, a support group, or talk with others who are struggling to build a family, so that you won't feel isolated.

Myth: It's all in your head! Why don't you relax or take a vacation. Then you'll get pregnant!

Fact: Infertility is a disease or condition of the reproductive system. While relaxing may help you with your overall quality of life, the stress and deep emotions you feel are the result of infertility, not the cause of it. Improved medical techniques have made it easier to diagnose infertility problems.

Myth: Don't worry so much -- it just takes time. You'll get pregnant if you're just patient.

Fact: Infertility is a medical problem that may be treated. At least 50% of those who complete an infertility evaluation will respond to treatment with a successful pregnancy. Some infertility problems respond with higher or lower success rates. Those who do not seek help have a "spontaneous cure rate" of about 5% after a year of infertility.

Myth: If you adopt a baby you'll get pregnant!

Fact: This is one of the most painful myths for couples to hear. First it suggests that adoption is only a means to an end, not an happy and successful end in itself. Second, it is simply not true. Studies reveal that the rate for achieving pregnancy after adopting is the same as for those who do not adopt.

Myth: Why don't you just forget it and adopt? After all, there are so many babies out there who need homes!

Fact: For many, adoption is a happy resolution to infertility. But choosing how to build your family is a very personal decision. Learning about all the ways to build a family can open your eyes to options you may not have thought of as a possibility. Education is key to finding resolution.

Myth: Maybe you two are doing something wrong!

Fact: Infertility is a medical condition, not a sexual disorder.

Myth: My partner might leave me because of our infertility.

Fact: The majority of couples do survive the infertility crisis, learning in the process new ways of relating to each other, which deepens their relationship in years to follow.

Myth: Perhaps this is God's way of telling you that you two aren't meant to be parents!

Fact: It is particularly difficult to hear this when you are struggling with infertility. You know what loving parents you would be, and it is painful to have to explain to others that you have a medical problem.

Myth: Infertility is nature's way of controlling population.

Fact: Zero population growth is a goal pursued in a time of world overpopulation, but it still allows for couples to replace themselves with two children. Individuals or couples can certainly elect the option to be childfree or to raise a single child. Infertility, for those who desire children, denies them the opportunity to choose.

Myth: I shouldn't take a month off from infertility treatment for any reason... I just know that this next month will be THE one!

Fact: It is important periodically to reassess your treatment and your parenting goal. Continuity in treatment is important, but sometimes a break can provide needed rest and renewal for the next steps.

Myth: I'll be labeled a 'trouble maker' if I ask too many questions.

Fact: The physician/patient team is important. You need to be informed about what treatments are available. What is right for one couple may not be right for another, either physically, financially, or emotionally. Don't be afraid to ask questions of your doctor.

A second opinion can be helpful. If needed, discuss this option with your physician.

Myth: I know I'll never be able to stop treatment until I have a pregnancy.

Fact: Pregnancy is not the only pathway to parenthood. You may begin to think more about parenthood than about pregnancy. You may long for your life to get back to normal. You may consider childfree living or begin to think of other ways to build a family.

Myth: I've lost interest in my job, hobbies, and my friends because of infertility. No one understands! My life will never be the same!

Fact: Infertility is a life crisis -- it has a rippling effect on all areas of your life. It is normal to feel a sense of failure that can affect your self-esteem and self-image. You will move through this crisis. It is a process, and it may mean letting go of initial dreams. Throughout this process, stay informed about the wide range of options and connect with others facing similar experiences.

Sunday, April 26, 2009

Another Weekend

My parents invited Andrew and I Friday night to see the Bar J Wranglers. We decided it would be fun to see them perform in Jackson Hole and have the whole experience, but the show was good in Roosevelt too.

Saturday morning our FSA (Families Supporting Adoption) group got together and frosted sugar cookies. It's always fun to socialize with this group!

I did some fun things around my house too. I got this watering can a while back and decided to put some dried roses and eucalyptus in it for a cute decoration. Andrew spoils me a lot so whenever I get roses from him, I dry them and use them for things like this. I have also made 2 big swags that hang on my walls with them!

Also, when I visited my sister in Price last week, I got a cute saying in vinyl lettering to hang above Andrew's dresser. I like the way it turned out. Lately I'm into putting the vinyl lettering just right on the wall.

I hope everyone had a good weekend as well!

Friday, April 24, 2009

Administrative Professionals Day - April 22, 2009

I have been working at Tri County Health Department in Roosevelt for almost 3 years (in September). Every year they have always been so generous by giving me and all the different secretaries (politically incorrect word anymore!) here a gift. This is the only job I've ever worked at that has observed this day and it is very much appreciated. Every year they give us a little yummy from The Little Sweet Pea, which is a cute boutique in Vernal. It makes me feel appreciated. Thank you!

Just For Fun

I saw this on a friends blog and I thought it was pretty funny. Go ahead, give it a try. Oh...and be sure to leave a post with your sentence when you're done. :)

Pick the month you were born:
January-------I kicked
February------I loved
March--------I karate chopped
April----------I licked
May----------I jumped on
June----------I smelled
July-----------I did the Macarena with
August--------I had lunch with
September----I danced with
October-------I sang to
November-----I yelled at
December-----I ran over

Pick the day (number) you were born on:
1-------a birdbath
2-------a monster
3-------a phone
4-------a fork
5-------a snowman
6-------a gangster
7-------my mobile phone
8-------my dog
9-------my best friends' boyfriend
10-------my neighbor
11-------my science teacher
12-------a banana
13-------a fireman
14-------a stuffed animal
15-------a goat
16-------a pickle
17-------your mom
18-------a spoon
19------ - a smurf
20-------a baseball bat
21-------my brother
22-------Chuck Norris
23-------a noodle
24-------a squirrel
25-------a football player
26-------my sister
27-------a ninja
28-------an iPod
29-------a surfer
30-------a homeless guy
31-------a llama

What is the last number of the year you were born:
1--------- in my car
2 --------- on your car
3 ----------- in a hole
4 ----------- under your bed
5 ----------- riding a Motorcycle
6 --------- sliding down a hill
7 --------- in an elevator
8---------- at the dinner table
9 -------- In line at the bank
0 -------- in your bathroom

Pick the color of shirt you are wearing:
White---------because I'm cool like that.
Black---------because that's how I roll.
Pink-----------because I'm NOT crazy.
Red-----------because the voices told me to.
Blue-----------because I'm sexy and I do what I want.
Green---------because I think I need some serious help.
Purple---------because I'm AWESOME!
Gray----------because Big Bird said to and he's my leader.
Yellow--------because someone offered me 1,000,000 dollars
Orange--------because my family thinks I'm stupid anyway.
Brown---------because I can.
Other----------because I'm a Ninja!
None----------because I can't control myself

My sentence was: I had lunch with my mobile phone in your bathroom because that's how I roll.

Some are funnier than others...What was yours?

Wednesday, April 22, 2009

A Whirlwind Weekend

This last weekend Andrew and I went to Layton to attend an adoption class, but before we got to Layton, we stopped in Bountiful to visit some dear friends, Gerald and Michelle Carpenter and their 3 kids. We were neighbors when we both lived in Magna and they were kind enough to write one of our reference letters when we getting our paperwork ready for LDS Family Services. We hadn't seen each other since we moved to Roosevelt almost 3 years ago and they have since moved as well. It was so nice to catch up with each other and I hope it won't be that long before we see them again! They also helped us hook up with other old friends and neighbors such as the Litnak Family!

Our adoption class was taught by a woman who has adopted 6 children and she is amazing let me tell you. I always leave these classes feeling a little overwhelmed, but also very positive. Andrew and I have thought a little about adopting from China and she gave us great information regarding that and other countries and also about adopting here in the US. It was an eye opener for me, but it was needed I think. Unless we are able to adopt through LDS Family Services, which come to find out is probably not so likely as there are 2,000 couples waiting for children through LDSFS and there were only 300 children placed last year, we are looking at a cost of anywhere between $20,000 and $30,000 and that's adopting here in the US or internationally! I guess we'll just need to figure out what our next step will be together.

To wrap up my weekend, on Monday I headed down to Price to visit my sister Heidi and my cute niece Jade! Heidi and I got Coldstone ice cream and went shopping. Jade showed me how she jumped on her "jumpoline" and we also played kitchen. I miss having them close by to see all the time, but I know they are glad to have Sam home from Afghanistan and be back together as a family. Here are some pictures of Jade with her kitchen and eating the potato she "cooked"!

How Many Of Me?

LogoThere are
people with the name Jessica Heward in the U.S.A.

How many have your name?

Heward is my maiden name in case you didn't know!

LogoThere are
people with the name Jessica Ercanbrack in the U.S.A.

How many have your name?

Maybe the other Jessica Heward in the United States married an Ercanbrack and became the other Jessica Ercanbrack like me! I loved being a Heward, but I love being an Ercanbrack too!

Some interesting facts about my name:


  • There are 750,351 people in the U.S. with the first name Jessica.
  • Statistically the 61st most popular first name.
  • More than 99.9 percent of people with the first name Jessica are female.
  • Names similar to Jessica:


  • There are 888 people in the U.S. with the last name Heward.
  • Statistically the 30847th most popular last name.


  • There are 674 people in the U.S. with the last name Ercanbrack.
  • Statistically the 38739th most popular last name.

Sunday, April 12, 2009

Happy Easter!

This year in the stores all the Easter candy was color-coordinated so Andrew got all green candy and I got all pink candy. That morning I put Emillio's Happy Easter bandanna on and she wore it around for awhile. We then went up to our friends Charlie and Janet's again and had a ham dinner. It was so good and the weather was absolutely perfect, warm and sunny with NO wind!

Easter Eggs

We dyed eggs Saturday night with our friends Charlie and Janet. We bought a sports egg dying kit so Andrew did a BYU egg using a clear crayon in the kit with Ty Detmer's number on the back using some stickers in the kit. I did some eggs that said "I love Drew" and "I love Emillio". I think my favorite ones to make of all time though are the shrink-wrapped ones!

Friday, April 10, 2009

Rascal Flatts CD

I finally got the new Rascal Flatts CD last night! Yeah!

The CD came out April 7, which was Tuesday, and I had all these great plans to go to Vernal and pick it up because I always get the Rascal Flatts cd's the day they come out, but I ended up being sick Tuesday and I still am unfortunately. Andrew had class in Vernal last night though so I rode over with him (sick or not!) and shopped while he was in class. The CD is so great! I listened to the entire thing last night and already have some favorite songs. Check out this link for a preview listen to each song on the cd.


Sunday, April 5, 2009

Baby Pygmy Goats

In Cedarview, close by Andrew's parents, is a small herd of Pygmy Goats. Recently that herd has gotten 7 new babies, 4 black and 3 white goats! We went to visit them today and they are so cute. I wanted to take one or two home with me, but instead here are some pictures!

They are only about the size of my cat! So cute and fun to visit!

Thursday, April 2, 2009

Scentsy Party

Tonight I attended a Scentsy Party thrown by my sister-in-law Kim. I love attending and also hosting parties like this. My absolute favorite parties to host are Pampered Chef parties, but parties of this kind are always a lot of fun no matter what company!

At the Scentsy party tonight though I bought some new scents for my 2 warmers. One is a big warmer that sits on my counter and one is a plug-in warmer so I can have a sweet smell and a bakery smell ready to go for whatever mood I'm in. Below is a description of the new scents I got tonight:

Sunkissed Citrus - Lively blend of oranges, lemons, limes and grapefruit. (Had this one before and loved it!)

Cinnamon Cider - Tart apples balanced with oak and spicy cinnamon. (New scent that is just out!)

Plumeria - Hawaiian plumeria and night-scented jasmine mingled with succulent pear. (Also a new scent that is just out! I also got this scent in a car candle, which is basically a scented circle of cardboard that you hang from your rear view mirror, but then your car always smells great!)

It was a fun evening and I can't wait for my new scents to arrive!

Wednesday, April 1, 2009

Honest Scrap

My blogging friend and sister-in-law Kim has tagged me and so I am asked to share 10 things about myself:

1. I met my husband Andrew when we were both 15 years old. We dated our junior and senior years of high school and got married a year after graduation. Yes, I married my high school sweetheart! He is the perfect compliment to me and I could never have asked for a better best friend and husband.

2. I was married in the Bountiful Temple, which has been my favorite temple since the day it was built. It is so beautiful and white sitting on a hill far above the city.

3. I will be married 10 years this summer. Where does the time go? ;)

4. We have not been able to have any children up to this point, but we would love to be parents and have been approved to adopt through LDSFS since January 2008. We are trying to patiently wait until we can find the beautiful little child that's supposed to come to our home!

5. I am the oldest of 4 children.

6. I have 2 nieces: Katelyn and Jade and 1 nephew named Lincoln.

7. I love to decorate my house and am constantly looking for cute things to add to my decor!

8. I love cats and especially my cute kitty Emillio!

9. I love designer handbags like Louis Vuitton and I actually have one! I hope to get a Prada or Kate Spade bag next!

10. I absolutely am a city girl! I love, love, love Salt Lake City and I hope to move back there someday, maybe after my husband is done with college and has his bachelor's degree!

Thanks Kim for the tag! It was a challenge to think of 10 things about myself, but I hope everyone enjoys learning a little more about me!

I would like to tag my cousin Melissa Wagner!